I recently learned some teenage lingo that I’m gonna clue you in on. Unbeknownst to me, I’ve been texting all wrong. See, when mentee texts “wyd” (translation: what are you doing), I always tell her what I’m doing (i.e. work, walking my dog, etc.). Turns out: that’s incorrect in teen culture.
While adults get somewhat of a pass on this etiquette, amongst teens, the expected responses are limited to:
- “nuthin”
- “im bored.”
“So even if I’m doing something, I’m supposed to just text you ‘nuthin’?” I asked my mentee.
She confirmed… and then rattled off a bunch of other Gen Z slang I’m still digesting.
According to Axis.org’s Parent Guide to Teen Slang, words like “rizz” (short for charisma, often in the context of flirting), “bussin’” (meaning “really good,” usually about food), and “bet” (which they define as “okay” or “yes”) are just a few examples of how teens are crafting a language of their own (Axis, 2025).
The lingo lesson has stuck with me, for that very reason. I remember the excitement of finding my own style and identity as a teen. I recall feeling so cool when I made up a word with my friend and used it obnoxiously. Today’s youthful desire to individualize mirrors our own.
Individualization in the Teen Years
I wish I had known, at that age, that I was enough as I was. I did not have multiple people who regularly affirmed me outside of my accomplishments–nor the trust to accept such care.
As mentors, you can be that voice for a youth who is stepping into a whole new world of experiences. Sometimes, the impact isn’t apparent; sometimes it is. I encourage you to persevere for the sake of your mentee.
Understanding and affirming a mentee’s God-given identity and expression is one of the most powerful things a mentor can do during the individualization-era of teens. Amid a culture that is flinging arrows at the soft armor of adolescence; you can choose to speak life into your mentee. That may be admiring a new hairdo, complimenting an improvement in manners, or even learn a bit about Gen Z or Gen Alpha lingo.
Learning the Lingo to Show You Care
After all, Axis reminds us that “language has always been a way for teens to establish identity and separate themselves from adults.” So when we listen in—even if we fumble the lingo—we’re showing that we care.
We all want to be seen, and you have built a unique level of trust and significance in a young person’s life. Use that to pour out care and confidence-building words this month.